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Why “I Don’t Have Time” Is Really an Excuse to Avoid Something
It really means you’re not top of their list of priorities
Sorry, but you’re being lied to. When people don’t want to do something, usually they won’t just say so. Just saying “I don’t want to” can come across as too blunt, which can cause a confrontation, and people tend not to like confrontations. So, instead, people pretend they are too busy.
I’m reminded of one of Phoebe’s lines in ‘Friends’. When invited to a social occasion by one of the others, she replies “I’m sorry, I would if I could, but I don’t want to”. Secretly, I think we all wish we could sometimes just say that to get out of doing something.
Related article: 8 reasons why ‘Friends’ was such an unrealistic TV show.
Are they actually too busy, or just too busy for you?
How often have you heard the response “I’m too busy” when you asked someone out on a date? Always ask yourself, if a hot celebrity asked them out, would they be too busy then?
The same goes if you ask a friend if they want to hang out or meet for a coffee. Do they reply with “Sorry, I can’t, I’ve got too much on at the moment”? If so, I have bad news for you. There’s a high chance they just don’t want to spend…
